Meet Cassandra. Cassandra has a reputation for being someone that approaches everything wholeheartedly and gives even the smallest of tasks all of her love and attention. Cassandra balances a full plate including her son and two daughters, a busy career, studying and a new business in pursuit of her passion for photography and all while conquering the difficulties that come with being dyslexic. She does it all so well and this supermum is fierce in her pursuit to follow all of her dreams. She is motivated by her children and embodying the message that you can be and do anything irregardless of circumstance and demonstrate this important life lesson to her little ones.
What you’d tell your new mum self about motherhood:
It’s going to be harder than you think and not because of the baby crying and not knowing what’s wrong. That’s all part of it but it’s the lack of sleep and all the little things that are part of the everyday that you need to be OK with not getting done. Housework, food preparation and shopping, trying to breastfeed in between visitors and just even trying to have a shower becomes overwhelming with your first born. I’d tell myself to be a bit more mentally prepared for these things to stay by the way-side cause it can really drive you crazy.
Something that surprised you about motherhood:
I didn’t realise I’d feel so isolated and lonely especially without having my family here and my husband at work. At times I just wished I would have had my mum, dad or sister drop in and have a cup of tea and share special moments with them and my kids.
What you learned about yourself as a parent:
I learned a lot about myself on my long journey to fall pregnant which ultimately freed me from 20 years of depression. My journey was filled with a lot of heartbreak and fears but once I had my first born I learned that all my fears were a valid representation of things that happened to me in my life so I became at peace with it and I was finally free.
How has motherhood changed you?
I’ve become less patient lol. Most people say it taught them patience but not me. After 3 kids in 3 years I’ve never yelled so much in my life.
What have your kids taught you?
To be present, forgiving and not hold grudges.
Something your mum taught you:
Mum taught me the benefits and joy of cooking from scratch. Anything in a packet where you just add eggs or water is forbidden in her house and packet cakes are a dirty word.
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What do you wish people knew about you?
That I am dyslexic and everyday life is really hard. My girls are in school and I have to write a lot of things for them but I don’t do it in front of them as I don’t want them to see me make mistakes. Measuring out medicines, ingredients, writing down the right dates and times for appointments, reading out account numbers over the phone, writing receipt numbers down is really tricky for me. My dyslexia is what held me back from studying photography for so long but I always tell my kids that you can be whatever you want as long as you work hard so it was time for me to practice what I preach.
What would you do if you could do anything you wanted?
I would build a retreat for adults and children suffering depression and a mothers retreat for new mums with classes and workshops to suit.
If you could have any super power what would it be?
Magic powers to cook, clean and do washing so I can spend that time with my kids.
Best mum hack?
I put every plastic toy that doesn’t have batteries in the dishwasher every 2 weeks especially after they have been sick to kill the bacteria and every soft toy every few weeks in the dryer to kill dust mites and bacteria.
What are your go-to kid/baby products?
A big stretchy wrap for swaddling, Infants Friend, Brauers stomach calm, baby probiotic and Sambucol kids liquid, Ergo baby front pack, baby capsule, QV lotion and hirudoid cream for bruises when they start crawling and walking.
What do you do to take care of yourself so you can take care of your family?
I get up at 6am and run on the treadmill. I find it really helps my mental health by giving me time. I run 3kms for only 20 mins but it’s before everyone wakes up, I put my headphones on and watch a series or a photography tutorial and just sweat. Then I can mentally go on with my day before they all wake up and want something from me and its CHAOS (!!!) until everyone goes to bed again.
Something you are looking forward to:
A full night sleep.
The best advice you’ve ever been given?
“You know, sometimes babies just cry”! This one came from my Aunty who has 5 kids. She rang me when my first born was 3 weeks old and I wasn’t coping what a difference her words made!
Keep up with Cassandra and her family by following SeeSoul Photography on Instagram.